Journey to Self-Confidence

I find it interesting, when I was so focused on my body image and trying to change it because I didnt like it...nothing changed...


but AS SOON as I started to focus on what God says about me and not what people say...I started losing the weight...so far I have lost over 30lbs and I have lost 2 inches in my waist...PRAISE GOD!


I know why it happened like that...it was because I was stressing and not focusing on God...but as soon as I started putting my focus on God again He started working it all out...and I love myself no matter how I look....my main focus is to get myself healthy....


God says that your body is a temple for the Lord....so right now God is fixing it up both inside and out, anyway so I wanted to say that dont worry about what other people think about you or your looks...people tend to put more focus on how they think others should look, and when they do that they end up hurting the other person....but God loves us regardless of how we look, we could be short, tall, big, small, and God see's us as gorgeous, why? because HE created us.


now if someone's body isnt healthy, that is something God does want us to change, because He tells us to take care of our bodies, but that NEVER changes how God feels about us...


now I know people can be very hurtful, I mean I have been called all sorts of things by people who have nothing better to do then hurt others....but what matters is I DONT accept their words, it took me a long time to get to a place of security like that, because I used to believe everything people said about me and I'd accept the lies, that brought me into depression, destroyed my self-confidence, and made me hate myself...I mean even when I was thinner I had bad self-confidence, I mean when I let myself be controled by what other people thought about me or said about me then no matter how thin I was, it was never good enough...no matter how my makeup or hair was done I was never pretty enough in people's eyes...and that brought me down a long road of self-doubt and self-hate.


Finally I got so sick and tired of living in depression, that I started to fight back...not physically, but emotionally...I started reading the bible to find out what God thinks about me, and when people would say crap to me like "why are you so fat?" or "why dont you lose some weight? you'd be so much more prettier" I  would tell them that their words arent kind, and they are hurtful, and I mean MOST people would then say how sorry they were and they didnt mean to be hurtful...then there were a few who did actually want to be hurtful so I told them goodbye because I do not need people like that in my life...it took me a while but now I'm to the point where yes I do allow the words to hurt BUT only for a few minutes, because I am being real...they are hurtful...and I cannot allow myself to bottle any pain up because if I do then it would just keep expanding until it explodes....so I'd rather feel the pain for a few minutes rather then have it all explode on me...but after those few minutes are over...I move on....


it is NOT an easy thing to do...and it took me a while to get to this point and even now I am still working on it. but God is forever with me and He is doing great things in my life....so I want to share with you...


DONT focus on what people tell you negatively about your body image or anything else
DO focus on what God says about you...because He loves you passionately and He see's you as GORGEOUS 


Here is an Excerpt from Proverbs 31 ministries:

"We desire to display both inner and outer beauty. One without the other is not really who we are, and we want someone to see who we really are. What we really long for is for someone to be enchanted with our entire being, our very essence.

What if instead of discarding this longing to be admired for our beauty, we embrace it?  What if we recognize this longing as a God-given desire which distinguishes our feminine heart?

When I turn this over in my mind and heart, I find something incredible: Not only does God give us this desire, He also satisfies it. You see, the King is enthralled with our beauty (Psalm 45:11).

The King sees me completely. He sees the effort I put into creating a scrapbook of my teenager or revising a writing submission until the words line up perfectly.  He sees me taking time to encourage a friend, or love my husband.  And He sees my efforts to exercise and take care of my body.

Our heavenly Father is the One who created and fulfills the longing of our hearts. God sees us inside and out, and He’s not disappointed or critical. He is delighted and enthralled.  By you!

The King is enthralled with our beauty. That’s why I’m dancing in my new boots today.  Won’t you join me?  Put on your favorite stylish shoes, crank the tunes, and dance.  His eyes are on you!

Dear Lord, nothing makes me more beautiful than Your love.  Thank You for being a Heavenly King who sees me completely and loves my whole essence.  In Jesus’ Name, Amen."

God thinks we are so amazingly beautiful and He wants us to know it and be confident in it...He is NOT a liar, so when God says we are BEAUTIFUL then we really are :)
It shouldnt matter what other people say or think about us...all that truly matters is what God thinks and says.


Here are some verses that show us what God says about us:

Jeremiah 29:11  I know the plans I have for you. Plans to prosper you and no to harm you. Plans to give you hope and a future.

1 Corinthians 2:16 We have the mind of Christ.

Philippians 1:6 He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion.

Philipians 2:15 We shine like the stars in the universe.

Isaiah 55:11 God’s word will not return empty but, will accomplish what He set it out to do.

Psalms 139 13-16 For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because i am fearfully and wonderfully made. I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you whenI was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.

Romans8:37  Nothing can seperate us from the love of God.

Romans 8:28-32 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.For those God foreknew He also predestined to be conformed to the likeness of His Son, that he may be the firstborn among many brothers.And those He predestined, he also called;  those He called, He justified;  those He justified, He also glorified. What shall we say in response to this? If God is for us, then who can be against us?

Romans 8:37 No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us.

Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ Jesus who strengthens me.

Romans 8:1 Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.

I started meditating on these, and as I did, God changed my heart...He changed it so I would focus more on His words about me, and not other people's...He wants to do the same in you, if you'll let Him...

God Bless
-Krysten-